FREE Shipping on ALL Orders!

FREE Shipping on ALL Orders!

Incontinent at Age 22, Matt Tells His Story to Help Others

January 02, 2021 3 Comments

Incontinent at Age 22, Matt Tells His Story to Help Others

What would it be like to suddenly become incontinent at age 22? That’s what happened to Matt. We met on Instagram where he messaged that he wanted to reach out to others about younger people and incontinence.

“It’s hard to talk to people about wearing diapers at a young age,” Matt said. “It happened to me when I was 22. I’m 38 now, and for 16 years I have had to hide my condition. I’ve been called a freak, and ‘nasty’ because of it. I just want to let other young people know that they aren’t alone.”

We here at Egosan were impressed with Matt’s courage and asked him if he’d share with our readers.

Matt’s story

Matt: “At age 22 I was in a bad car accident that changed my life forever. My friends and I were driving the day of the super bowl to get another friend who lived in Connecticut. Although It had snowed two days prior, that morning was decent, so we decided to go, but then the temperature dropped late in the day freezing the water on the road. As we drove down a hill and around a sharp corner on the ice-covered road, we slid into the other lane head-on into another car, and from there into a bolder.

"I was in the middle seat with just a lap belt on. When we crashed my face hit the headrest of the passenger seat and smashed out teeth, my hip was dislocated and my bladder popped.  

"Doctors were able to set my hip, but they told me that nothing could be done about my bladder. I then looked down and noticed that they had me in a giant adult diaper. I remember crying a lot at the news and feeling childish for doing that, but there was nothing I could do about it my reaction, either.

"My parents came and they were told everything. My mom was kind of supportive, but my stepdad was mean saying stuff like, “Oh, so he's a baby and can't hold nothing. I’m not buying him diapers.”

"At first, when friends came to visit me, I was so embarrassed that I wouldn't let them in. After I went home, I let them come over, but I always made sure that the diapers were covered so that no one could see them.

"Eventually, I was able to start doing normal things again, but I stayed away from crowds were people could bump into me because people might see or feel the diapers.

"I had lost my girlfriend at the time of the crash because she didn't want to have to deal with me needing to change or being caught with supplies in her car. It was the same story with each new girlfriend. I even lost other friends because they didn't believe me that the car accident had done that and would call me a freak for having diapers on, so they also stopped hanging.

"I did have a few friends that didn't even care about the diapers which felt great, though, and one of them is now my wife of nine years."  

Egosan: Matt, we’re sorry that you’ve been through so much.  

"We know that there’s a stigma around incontinence with older people, which we are working hard to dispel through education, but for younger people, it’s got to be so much harder. Did you try any options other than diaper style pads?

Matt: I tried doing the catheters for a while, but I kept getting urinary tract infections (UTIs) and caused damage to my urethra."

 Egosan: Tell us how you are doing now, Matt.

Matt: "I just want people to know that diapers aren't just for babies or the elderly. There are accidents and diseases, and other traumas in life that can cause people to lose bladder and/or bowel control and it doesn’t need to be the end of the world.

"I now have an amazingly supportive group of friends who couldn't care less about my need for diapers. They say I'm still me and no one judges me anymore. If someone else says something negative, these friends stick up for me before I can even get a word out.

"This support feels so good that it’s made me want to go public about my health problem and the stigma that people who have incontinence live with. Then Egosan caught my eye on Instagram as a company that cares about its customers, so I thought that this was a good way to get my story told. They were happy to listen to my story and help me share it.

"It would be great to hear from others who, like me, have gone through so much pain over what is really pretty manageable now with the right products"

Egosan: How is your health otherwise, Matt?

Matt: "I did well for a long time, but a while back I started noticing that I couldn't stop my hand from shaking at times. Also, I started having nerve pain in my stomach, and then sometimes I’d have bowel movements without knowing it.  After some tests, my doctor diagnosed me with Parkinson’s disease. He said that even without the accident, I would still have ended up in diapers. So, there’s no question that I’ll need great protection for the rest of my life.

"If it weren’t for companies like Egosan I would be stuck in a bind, especially with the pandemic going on and money being tight. They reached out and are helping in this hard time.  

"You have helped me more than you know. My life is doing good now that there are people and companies that really care."

Egosan: Thank you for being so forthright, Matt. I know that your courage will help others.

By Carol Bradley Bursack

***

 

 

 

General caregiving or incontinence questions? We’re here to help with ASKCAROL. ***She has an additional discount for you.

Egosan wants to help you live your life fully: Try Sustainable Egosan premium underwear for discrete, dignified protection. For 20% off your first order on Amazon use promo Code: 20CareGivers.

***Egosan’s PEFC certification guarantees that their products are from sustainable, managed forests, recycled, and controlled sources





3 Responses

Carol B Bursack
Carol B Bursack

January 09, 2021

Your story is a powerful one, Matt. We truly appreciate the courage that it took for you to share it with us and with others who could learn from you. Thank you.

Harris
Harris

January 09, 2021

nice article Carol!

Matt
Matt

January 09, 2021

Thank you again for helping with my story and hopefully others will come tell there stories as well it is a boost to my confidence and want people to just be ok with th selves

Leave a comment

Comments will be approved before showing up.


Also in News

What’s Your Story? Help Egosan Eliminate the Stigma of Incontinence
What’s Your Story? Help Egosan Eliminate the Stigma of Incontinence

January 17, 2021 3 Comments

Why would he do this? At age 38, Matt feels strong enough to know that putting sharing his incontinence story will help others, of course, but being public about it will also help him. He wants to work to eliminate stigma and shame that surrounds incontinence. 

View full article →

New to Caregiving: How Do I Keep from Going Under?
New to Caregiving: How Do I Keep from Going Under?

December 17, 2020

The less obvious part is what I call “creep up.” That is what happened to me both in the number of people who needed help as well as each person’s increasing needs. In creep up, you handle the little things, and it’s not a huge deal. You add a little more and manage a crisis or two. Okay, you did it. Then, well...

View full article →

Lose the Stigma About Incontinence: Even Young People Can be Affected
Lose the Stigma About Incontinence: Even Young People Can be Affected

December 03, 2020 2 Comments

Dear SL: You are entirely right to feel left out of the incontinence discussions. I’m glad that you’ve found some support through groups, but we’d like you to know that we’ll also do our best to support you...

View full article →